Angel Talk #4: Do our guardian angels have expectations from us?

After a long break of more than a year, the urge to write has finally taken hold of me again. I have been asked countless times about whether our guardian angels have expectations from us or if they are simply benevolent beings who let us exercise our free will without interference. The query is not trivial; it speaks to the heart of how we understand relationships and support. Expectations, as we all know, can often be the root cause of misunderstandings and failures in relationships. So, could it be that our guardian angels might have expectations from us? And if we repeatedly fail, do they eventually ignore us or leave us to our own devices? Or, are they completely indifferent to our choices, supporting us regardless of our actions?

Let me start with a recent incident involving a close friend of mine. She had just bought a scooter and was excited about her new purchase. However, a few days later, she faced trouble starting the vehicle. Now, my friend is deeply connected to Archangel Michael. Whenever she faced any issues with machines or gadgets, she would call upon Michael for help, and miraculously, a solution would often present itself. But not this time. Despite her multiple pleas to Michael and numerous attempts to kickstart the scooter, it simply refused to start.

Frustration and doubt began to set in. She started questioning why Michael wasn’t helping her this time. She entertained all sorts of thoughts, from believing she had somehow fallen out of favour to doubting her own connection with the angel. Then, a friend of hers arrived. This friend knew very little about scooters but decided to take a look anyway. She removed the stand and pressed the self-start button and the scooter roared to life! The problem was simple: the sensor in the scooter stand prevents the vehicle from starting if the stand is down, a safety feature my friend was aware of but had somehow overlooked 😊

The Larger Question

This incident raises intriguing questions about the nature of our guardian angels’ support. Did Michael expect my friend to remember the safety feature? Or was he unconcerned about her forgetfulness and instead orchestrated the arrival of the other friend to help her out? Or perhaps, this was all just a play of the mind?

To explore this further, let’s delve into some personal anecdotes and stories that might shed light on whether our guardian angels have expectations or if they simply support us unconditionally.

Anecdote #1: The Lost Traveler

Several years ago, I found myself lost in a dense forest while hiking. I had ventured off the beaten path, confident in my sense of direction. But as hours passed, I realized I was hopelessly lost. Panic began to set in. I called upon my guardian angel, whom I had always felt a deep connection with, for guidance. I sat down, closed my eyes, and silently prayed for help.

After a few minutes, I heard the sound of rustling leaves. I opened my eyes to see a deer standing a few feet away, calmly looking at me. Something about its presence felt reassuring. The deer turned and began to walk away, stopping occasionally to look back at me as if beckoning me to follow. With nothing to lose, I decided to follow it. The deer led me through the forest to a small clearing, where I could see a familiar landmark in the distance. Relieved, I found my way back to the trail and safely returned home.

Reflecting on this incident, I wondered if my guardian angel had orchestrated the appearance of the deer. Did the angel expect me to follow the animal, or was it just a lucky coincidence? It felt like a gentle nudge in the right direction rather than a stern expectation.

Anecdote #2: The Job Interview

A few years ago, I was preparing for a crucial job interview. It was a position I desperately wanted, and I had been preparing for weeks. The night before the interview, I was a bundle of nerves. I called upon my guardian angel for support and guidance, hoping for some divine intervention to calm my anxious mind.

That night, I had a vivid dream. In the dream, I saw myself sitting in the interview room, confidently answering questions. My guardian angel appeared beside me, whispering words of encouragement and assurance. When I woke up, I felt an inexplicable sense of calm and confidence. The interview went smoothly, and I got the job.

Did my guardian angel expect me to prepare well for the interview, or was the dream simply a way to bolster my confidence? It seemed like the angel was providing support and reassurance rather than setting expectations.

Anecdote #3: The Near-Accident

One evening, I was driving home from work, exhausted and distracted. As I approached an intersection, I absentmindedly ran a red light. Suddenly, I felt a strong urge to slam on the brakes. I did so instinctively, just in time to avoid a speeding car that zoomed through the intersection from the opposite direction. My heart was pounding as I realized how close I had come to a serious accident.

Later, I couldn’t help but feel that my guardian angel had intervened. Did the angel expect me to be more attentive and cautious while driving? Or was the sudden urge to brake a way of protecting me despite my lapse in attention?

Guardian Angels and Expectations

These anecdotes suggest that guardian angels may not have rigid expectations of us. Instead, they seem to offer support and guidance tailored to our needs and circumstances. They gently nudge us in the right direction, provide reassurance, and sometimes intervene to protect us from harm. This approach aligns with the concept of free will, allowing us to make our own choices and learn from our experiences.

However, it’s also possible that guardian angels hope for us to grow and evolve spiritually. They may encourage us to develop qualities like mindfulness, compassion, and wisdom. While they don’t enforce expectations, they may guide us towards becoming better versions of ourselves.

The Role of Free Will

One of the most profound aspects of our relationship with guardian angels is the respect for our free will. We are free to make our own choices, even if they lead to mistakes or challenges. Guardian angels do not judge or abandon us based on our actions. Instead, they remain a steady presence, offering support and guidance without infringing on our autonomy.

This respect for free will is crucial in understanding why guardian angels may not have fixed expectations. They understand that our journey is unique and personal. Each mistake, failure, or success is a part of our growth. By allowing us to navigate our own paths, they help us build resilience, wisdom, and strength.

A Play of Mind?

Returning to the incident with my friend’s scooter, it’s fascinating to consider whether the entire scenario was a play of the mind. Was it Archangel Michael who orchestrated the arrival of the friend who helped start the scooter? Or was it a simple coincidence? Perhaps Michael’s role was more about providing a subtle reminder that help can come from unexpected places.

In moments of doubt and frustration, it’s easy to question the presence and support of guardian angels. Yet, these experiences often teach us valuable lessons about patience, trust, and the importance of being open to help from others.

In conclusion, the question of whether guardian angels have expectations from us is complex. Based on personal experiences and reflections, it seems that guardian angels do not have rigid expectations. Instead, they offer support, guidance, and protection while respecting our free will. They gently encourage us to grow and evolve, but they do not judge or abandon us based on our actions.

The incident with my friend’s scooter, along with the other anecdotes, highlights the subtle and often mysterious ways in which guardian angels operate. They are always present, providing the support we need, even if it comes from unexpected sources. Whether it’s a deer leading a lost traveller, a dream offering reassurance, or an instinctual urge to avoid danger, their guidance is always there.

Ultimately, our relationship with guardian angels is one of unconditional support and love. They are there to help us navigate the complexities of life, offering a steady presence that reassures us we are never truly alone. As we continue to journey through life, we can take comfort in knowing that our guardian angels are always by our side, ready to offer their support whenever we need it.

Questions to Ponder

  1. Have you ever experienced a moment where you felt an inexplicable sense of guidance or intervention? What do you believe was the source of that support?
  2. Do you think our guardian angels expect us to learn from our mistakes, or are they simply there to offer unconditional support? Why?
  3. How do you perceive the concept of free will in relation to divine guidance? Do you believe we have complete autonomy, or is there a balance between guidance and choice?
  4. Can you recall an incident where help arrived from an unexpected source? How did it change your perspective on receiving assistance?
  5. In what ways do you think we can cultivate a stronger connection with our guardian angels or spiritual guides?
  6. Do you believe that guardian angels can communicate with us through dreams or signs? Have you had any such experiences?
  7. How do you interpret the role of guardian angels in times of crisis versus everyday life? Do you think their presence is more noticeable during challenging times?

Human Talk #4 Passion, Intimacy or Commitment: what do you feel is more important to have in love?

Love is one of the most complicated and at the same time, the simplest feeling we as humans experience. Greeks had tried to differentiate love/lovers in their own way into eight different ways based on the way it is expressed and reacted upon. For example, they had discussed Eros, which is romantic or sexual love and Pragma, which is enduring love and almost opposite of Eros. No matter how they are defined, there is no dispute over the fact that wars had been fought in the name of love and at the same time people had sacrificed everything for love.

Psychologists say that there are ideally three components of love-Intimacy, Passion and Commitment. The intensity may vary and of course, there is no mandate that all of these should be present in a love relation too. As per them, each should be present and in a balanced form.

All of us may have already used familiar words like infatuation, liking and obsession, from our adulthood. All these can be understood well from checking how the combination of intimacy, passion and commitment is working in it.

Let us examine some of the familiar love relations we have heard or experienced:

Infatuation or at times “Love at first sight “: Passion will be strong and intense. But intimacy and commitment may be totally missing.

Romance: Intimacy and passion may be high, but rarely combined with a commitment

Liking: Intimacy will be there and maybe strong too. But passion and commitment may be totally missing.

Fatuous love happens due to strong physical attraction and normally will have a strong passion and a weak commitment, but there will be very little or no intimacy.

Empty love: Something which is getting very common in marital relations now. Only commitment will be present. Passion and intimacy may be completely missing.

Compassionate love: intimacy and commitment will be very strong, but passion may be missing.

Ideal love: Passion, Intimacy and commitment are equally present and balanced. Anyone who is in ideal love will take the role of best friend and lover for each other.

Also, anyone in any of these love relations can be either totally dependent on each other or interdependent or completely independent and living parallel lives.

You are very lucky and blessed if you are going through and experiencing ideal love. But many of us will not be in that state. So, what can help us in enduring the love relation we have right now. Let us check about passion first. It is not easy to be passionate suddenly if you don’t feel that physical attraction to your partner or feel to be intimate with them. But then is it easy to have an Intimacy? It may be comparatively easy, provided you are emotionally connected to him/her, and you have good trust in them. You will truly wish them to be happy and it may be comparatively easier to improve your intimacy if you really want to. And about commitment. Do you feel it is easy to improve your commitment in the relation ?? for me, from my experience, is the most complicated part of any love relation? Commitment normally comes from deep inside. No matter how desperately you try with your conscious mind, commitment will not happen, if your subconscious mind is not willing to accept it.

Passion, intimacy and commitment have their own role to play in a love relationship. It is meaningless to say that one is more important than the other. The only important thing is to be aware of what is present and its intensity and what is not present.

And there is the case of unrequited love, especially the ones which is carried from past lives. This may program your thought process and stimulate attracting people into your life. We will discuss it in detail next time.

Let me now share the story of Alexandra. She was born into a very rich family. Her parents were very busy with their schedules and had engaged many housemaids and nannies to take care of Alexandra. Nannies were really kind and they took good care of her. Growing up Alexandra used to hear a lot of stories of spirits and ghosts from her nannies. In fact, she was the one who always used to request more spirit stories every day. She loved to hear these stories and always used to say that she used to have dreams involving spirits. She never seemed to be afraid of any of these dreams.

She was a studious student and completed her education well. She was not interested in getting a job and used to spend all the time in her big mansion in dreams and most of the time in a happy mood. Her parents started to notice some differences when she told them that she is not interested in marriage, and she didn’t find anyone good enough. They initially brushed it away assuming it was a temporary feeling, but when even after few years she was strongly holding on to the same decision, her parents got worried. They started noticing her closely then. They noticed that she was happy all the time and used to spend a lot of time admiring herself in the mirror and spending time inside her closed bedroom. They wanted to understand her more and got a new maid, as a friend for her. The intention was to understand what is going on inside her mind. The new girl, Sara stayed like a shadow of Alexandra and checked everything she was doing. The only place where Alexandra didn’t allow Sara, was inside her bedroom at night. She always insisted on sleeping alone.

Sara noticed that Alexandra used to chat happily looking at the mirror and occasionally to thin air. She used to be even very shy at times as if she were speaking to her lover. Sara overheard Alexandra saying how much she feels happy to have “him” with her and how much she was waiting for the night. This made her parents concerned and no matter how much they tried Alexandra didn’t allow anyone inside her room at night. One day, as per the instruction by Alexandra’s parents, Sara informed her that she is going to meet a friend and will return only the next day. As planned, Sara hid inside Alexandra’s bedroom the whole day and waited till night. By nighttime Alexandra came in and closed the door behind her.

Hiding behind a cupboard Sara could see and hear everything which was happening. She could see Alexandra hymning a song very happily and changing herself into some very revealing clothes. She seemed to be very happy and then went to her bed to sleep. Within few minutes she slept too. Few hours passed and Sara was in double mind whether to move out of the room and some much need rest. Then suddenly, Sara started hearing sounds. First very soft and then getting stronger and louder. It was moans of pleasure from Alexandra. Sara could see Alexandra was already naked by then and her whole body was violently shaking as if someone was having a wild physical intimacy with her. She was moaning and laughing hysterically and then everything ended after some time. There was total silence and Sara could see Alexandra sleeping peacefully with happiness and content on her face. Sara was shaking with fear when she came out of the room.

Alexandra’s parents brought many psychologists and later an exorcist to bring her out of the situation. Psychologists told them she was having a rare situation called Spectro philia, wherein which one is attracted to ghosts or spirits. Due to this Alexandra was fantasizing about ghosts and was often imagining scenarios involving sexual events between her and spirits. They tried different methods but couldn’t make any difference in Alexandra. Then her parents brought  an exorcist, who after multiple interactions told them that she was deeply fantasized and controlled by Incubus, which is a demon in male form who, according to mythological and legendary traditions lies upon sleeping women to engage in sexual activity with them and Alexandra was deeply in love with it 😊 For her, Incubus was the ultimate man who was giving her all sorts of emotional support  and physical pleasure she can imagine and she was in an inseparable state of mind with him

Whether it was a delusion, Spectro philia or a spirit encounter, the exorcist using his exorcism skills or psychological approach, was successful in removing these thoughts out of Alexandra’s mind in the next few months. But what went away with it was also the absolute bliss Alexandra used to show and feel. Alexandra never showed so much happiness ever then, even though she started going outside and started working. After few years she got married willingly as per her parent’s wish. After her first night, she was found hanging dead in her bedroom, when her husband returned from work, leaving a lot of questions unanswered.

Just a few questions to think about:

The emotion or feeling Alexandra felt, was it, love, in any way??

Do you feel that the physical ecstasy, she was experiencing(imagining), was the main reason why she was obsessed with the whole thing??

Was she really experiencing it, or everything was in her head/mind??

After agreeing to the marriage, why did she commit suicide after night??